Can a man and woman have a platonic relationship?
We got an interesting message into the show and I want you to have a listen to it.
Here’s one for your show? Is it possible for a man and woman to have a platonic, friendly relationship? If you talk about this please don’t mention my name. My wife has a male friend at work that she has become very close to. I have met him once a couple of months ago at a work party but I don’t really know him.
They have started to go out a lot lately just the two of them. They have gone for dinner a couple of times just the two of them and lately I have been starting to feel a little concerned. He is single heterosexual man and my wife is a beautiful woman.
Does he have more in mind them she does? Could she end up falling for him? Or am I completely over-reacting and men and women can be just friends?
I don’t have any close female friends. My wife and I have female friends who have husbands and we would all meet together but I would never dream of going for dinner with another woman regardless of is it was platonic or not.
Can you ask your listeners if I am over-reacting? Can a man and a woman really have a platonic, friendly relationship?
What do you think of this message?
Do you think this man is over-reacting? Or do you think he has a right to be concerned.
The man may not be far from the truth when he says that the man could be looking for more in the friendship.
A 2012 study into this found in the majority of opposite-sex friendships, there’s at least a low level of attraction. Men reported more attraction and a stronger desire to date their female friends than women did their male friends.
These men were also more likely to overestimate how attracted their platonic female friends were to them, while women underestimated how attractive they were to their male friends. The researchers noted the more attracted a person was to their platonic friend, the less satisfied they were with their current romantic relationship.
So according to this study, this guy has a reason to be concerned – but – what do you think?
Do you think he is over-reacting?
Would you have an issue if your partner had a best friend whom he or she spent a lot of time with who was of the opposite sex?
So – can a man and woman really have a platonic relationship?
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